Comparing Russian and American Dating Styles

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Even though it had been my dream to live in America, I was very excited but nervous at the same time. I did have a Japanese boyfriend but I ended things with him to go to school in California. Unlike Japan, California is a true melting pot of cultures but since I had so little dating experience back home, I was nervous about getting into the dating scene in America. Mostly because I had no idea how the American dating culture worked. I was young and naïve so it was a little scary in the beginning and I soon discovered the dating process in America is quite different from the one in Japan. In this article, I want to talk about a few major differences I saw between Japanese and American dating cultures. One thing that is very different in Japan is that it is not uncommon for a woman to ask a man out. I have to confess that I had a crush on a boy in junior high and my friends forced me to do the kokuhaku ritual. In America, it really depends on the person but I have never experienced this type of initiation. Something fellow GP writer, Grace Buchele Mineta mentioned in her. I did the online dating many years ago and a couple of men say that it was getting too expensive for them to ask women out because even if you meet them just for a coffee, it quickly adds up. Anyways, these are the things that I have learned from dating men in America and these are very uniquely different experiences. Do I prefer American or Japanese dating custom? On the other hand I like that American men are more chivalrous than Japanese men and will do things like pay for dates and hold the door open for me. What do you guys think? Has your dating experience in Japan been different than in your home country? I think we know that we both have feeling for each other. The thing is, he cannot visit to me very often, since he has to travel a lot. Should I just simply do my Kokuhaku? Women should pay too. Hold the doors open for girls? Well, I would say, do it by yourself. It is called MGTOW. Modern women can only lead all modern men of all nations to a single, logical conclusion. Women should pay too. Hold the doors open for girls? Well, I would say, do it by yourself. I do admit that Japanese guys are intimidated by western girls. There is somethings I noticed that were different from the get go. Although kissing for him is more like if no one is around and people cant see us. IT WILL BE HARD. I wont lie it will be but it all worth it. Have a great day everyone hope this gave you something haha idk guys buy When I lived in Japan, Japanese guys were just Sooooooo not interested in western girls at all. They only like Japanese girls. Life was very lonely for me in Japan and my self esteem went down drastically cause Japanese men just only like Japanese girls. Maybe American men were just paying for her cause shes foriegn and they were trying to impress her? In my experience, the guys in America do ask the girls out tho and hold the door open which never happened in Japan. You immediately realized that the author has a differing opinion and you recognize it as foreign, and thus, bad? You apparently see it as an intentional rumour started in order to bring down the image of Japanese men instead of a simple personal narative about ones individuals experiences. Do I agree with the author on everything? On top of the nastiness that is your comment it is astonishing that you did not even read the blog that is attached to the link you sent. In fact, I found one to be quite rude and atypical. There are no generalizations because the people quoted in this article dated different people from different countries and they all have their own personalities. So, keep that in mind! If you continue to read the article THAT YOU POSTED, you will also come across stories in which younger Japanese men want to split the bill and as a result, their partners get upset. Please read If you continue to read you will also find two more stories of Japanese women, one whose boyfriend paid for everything and another one who did not. They never pay for you! Why do you keep acting like the voice of all Japanese women? Thank heavens you are not. American guys never pay for you? You seem like you are not the most friendly of people! You guys should know. You fail to grasp that everyone experiences the country differently, and thus, on a personal level, there are going to be many different people that have many different experiences that all make up the real Japan that you are talking about. READ THE BLOGPOST IN YOUR LINK! I agree that there are great differences between Japanese and American ways of doing things. In each situation, there is an unspoken understanding dictating how to act and how to proceed, and the Japanese people are very compared to Americans nervous about not acting properly in the given situation. In America, the better you communicate with your partner, the better the relationship will go. I gained alot of insight from your article. I cannot wait to go to Japan. I am into the building of old style, rigid, choppers. The buildings and history, I cant wait. Just began learning Japanese. Anyway, I would love to meet an amazing woman from there, I just dont plan on giving up my citizenship. People have done worse, for love though. Your article was so awsome. I know alot more now. From my experience, American girls expected me to pay and to be asked out. As far as marriage goes, once you get married, you never date other people. Why get married in the first place? American girls are much more forward and direct, from my experience, and more physically active in terms of being sexually forward. That being said though, America women love playing hard to get. My ex wife is Japanese and dating her in America, after she had lived in America for a few years, was different from the normal experience. I told her first, verbally, then she told me. She was more Westernized though, so she was more receptive to the dating culture. We were both in college, so we were both broke for the most part, haha. Japanese women that have dated other Western men tend to be more open and honest and Japanese women that have never dated a Westerner tend to be more reserved. More reserved in general life and in the bedroom. One super confusing thing though with Japanese women, in Japan, is that they are super nice to you. Here, single and married women, will be super nice to you and have no romantic feelings behind their actions. Every time a woman cooked for me in the USA family aside , they were always interested in me, or we were dating. I am a SoCal native and have also lived in a Japan. I have dated Japanese girls here in Los Angeles and dated many Japanese girls in Japan. On the surface all Japanese girls seem to be the same—polite, a little shy, stylish, and easy to get along with. She said there are different boyfriends who fit the following categories: steady guy who she dates on a regular basis maybe marriage material , an older guy sugar daddy? I never questioned other Japanese girls that I dated which category I was in, rather I just enjoyed their company and the experience. BTW, I always paid for the dates. Hi Mieko, I was talking about the beginning of dating.. I used to pay most of our expenses for my boyfriend in the past and we cover equally and these days he picks up much more as things are better. But actually my experience with American guys asking me to pay at least here in Hawaii was often not too far into the relationship. As in, we were still in the dating phase and not officially boyfriend and girlfriend yet. But also, they ended up being not good guys…. Lol so I guess that is why. From the sounds of it, Japanese people have a saner policy when it comes to financing dates. Equality is a two-way street people. Hi Samuel, I agree with you on the principle, sex equality should apply to more than a few aspects of life. From the top of my head, there is something like a 20% difference between what men and women who do the same type of jobs make on average in France. When dating girls in JP, I was not actually aware that men in JP were not expected to pay for dates. Seeing the Japanese society as a pretty conservative one, I took for granted mea culpa on this one that I was expected to pay, and never really challenged this idea. You are right, women expect to be treated the same as men on many levels and yet stick to the traditional value when it suits them. What about guys perceptions of dating girls from both countries, I have that experience and its interesting to say the least! Los Angeles was very interesting, rather crazy…not so in a good way. It seems a lot of games are involved but men that I know and they are originally from midwest or east coast.. How can this be so complicated.. I think your analysis on dating culture in Japan and the US is overgeneralized and overly simplified based only on your lack of experience within the dating scene. In Japan, its pretty much the same as the US. It really depends on the couple and the progression of their relationship. Likewise in the States, the relationship can start as a friendship could quickly or slowly progress in to relationship. American cultural thing as you suggest, but more of the dynamics of the relationship and personalities of the individuals involved. In my experience, whether I paid or not really depended on my personal finances, whether or not I liked the person I was dating, our relationship status just friends or really dating , or simply who asked whom out. Being somewhat old fashioned, I usually preferred picking up the tab regardless of the above mentioned circumstances, but there have been instances when my date picked up the tab instead, and it had nothing to do with whether my date was Japanese or American, or which country I was in. Again, this kind only happens in dramas or on school grounds nowadays. You really need to learn that dating is not that simple anymore. Just my 2 yen. So it seems to me that the start of relationship is much more well defined in Japan. I might not have articulated that in details in my article but there are significant differences between Japanese and American dating culture.. Unfortunately I have very limited dating experiences back home as I moved to California right after high school. Men do have to pick up checks here. Job then family instead of just family. I am an american guy, with a bit of Japanese blood but I am really just american. I believe in a strict code of chivalry. So as far as the gentlemen rule goes. Its very rare to find a guy like that in america. Who is real and is not just wearing the chivalry to get the girl in bed. As for me, I ended up accidentally being alone with the girl I liked one night in the city canal walk ways. I didnt actually say anything though. I said yes of course and that was my confession. And even though I insist, to this day she still insists on paying for her meals and its actually quite nice. Also for those of you like me and for some reason you just want to date a Japanese girl. As long as you love that person truly at the end of the day it doesnt matter how or what drove you to that person. Same the other way around. Just dont expect them to be your Kawaii asian school girl because thats just creepy. This is why I have been apprehensive about dating.. Forty years ago, Games People Play revolutionized our understanding of what really goes on during our most basic social interactions. More than five million copies later, Dr. This anniversary edition features a new introduction by Dr. We play games all the time—sexual games, marital games, power games with our bosses, and competitive games with our friends. Berne exposes the secret ploys and unconscious maneuvers that rule our intimate lives. Explosive when it first appeared, Games People Play is now widely recognized as the most original and influential popular psychology book of our time. I had the opposite experience. With American guys, if you offer they take you up on it. This can of course vary depending on the individual. I also doubt that women in Japan regularly ask guys out. Talking to my friends, the number of women who ask men out on dates is quite small. I wonder if the author is mainly speaking if her experiences in junior high or high school, which is of course quite different from dating as an adult. Yup I am talking about dating differences among young people teenagers, 20s in the US and Japan. I am not sure why that is but American women whom I know seem to wait and throw hints but they are hesitant to ask men out. Japanese guys may offer to pay if you are a foreign girl.. They probably offer to open the doors too.. In short, many men that I knew back in LA young men of course were jerks. Men were to be charming, polite, intelligent, and women under a similar code were to be polite, ladylike, and more from both sides. However in modern American dating, it has gotten very complicated. With people being more open and gender roles blurring, people play more games rather than be honest. It has become an enigma, dating in the states. Yes Fortunately I found a really nice handsome American guy.. They think girls are expensive being a mom, I think they are too young to get serious. Of course, in America, the dating custom here is more lax than in the Philippines where the guys do the confessing of their love. Asking out on a date is only a very small part of how it is different. How to handle Public Display of Affection is totally different. Men in both places expect it will develop into a physical relationship sooner than later. When you finally do realize you like each other in the west you hang out quite often but in Japan you might go a week without seeing each other sometimes longer. Also end game expectations are quite different. It is very difficult for women to advance their careers especially in Japanese corporate world.. Japanese government needs to work on this issue.. I heard they were doing something. But single women who dont want to work and not raise children are pretty high too. All this is the bigger reason for the decline in Japanese population. The culture has to change and unfortunately Japanese as a whole are horrible at fixing cultural problems because of the lack of true debate skills. Seems like I need to move to japan. Asking a girl out can be pretty risky…. Women do not approach me ever. I guess half of it is my fault for not going to them, due to the fear I mentioned above. It is easier for others. I asked out a girl a few months back but she declined. And she was worried that i was mad at her. In the past when a girl had rejected me, she had asked if I was angry at her. I totally sympathise with you, the intention of asking them out completely ruins the approach unless you are one of those alpha guys like you say. Asia is so much more agreeable as the women seem to be much more interested in the inner aspect of you…and not so much about how you present yourself. I think in this globalised society we have the chance to change our environment so that we do not have to conform to unsuitable cultural rules! I think splitting the bill is gaining some traction in the US as well. Anywho, I think I had a different experience than you dating in the US. Online dating is very very common and you can never trust men because they could be paying the bills to get what they want! You just never know. To be honest, I have never had those issues. I guess it really depends what kind of people you get involved with. But it also depends on the state, individual values.. I am attracted to asians and women of central america…. We have to connect in a way like any other relationship. I grew up in Germany and we have the American customs too, but that never stopped me from asking guys because at some point I got really frustrated just waiting for guys to finally have the courage to ask. So typically I take the initiative. And did he need glasses? I think in our modern culture it would be nice if a girl at least offers to pay for the whole meal. You know what they look like and a few superficial things they like soccer, Mickey Mouse, etc but other than that, it seems to be based on appearance. Asking someone out and spending time with them in the US is supposed to find out if you like them, not date them because you already like them. So we look for people we consider attractive, and when we lay eyes on them, we want them. I have lived in Japan for 15 months and I discovered that the Japanese women are much more open when it comes to dating. They are not afraid to go over to you and say hi if they like you. I have also experienced some Japanese girls who was really directly and you knew from the start what they wanted. Those experiences is very rare in the Western countries I think. In my country Denmark the girls are usually waiting for the guys to come over and say hi, plus it is also the custom that the guy pays for the date. So I think the Japanese way makes the whole dating process more equal for both parts. Here, you decide whether you want to confess first or go out with the person on dates a couple of times to see how things fare; it all depends on the particular situation. I can Identify with your feelings about the dating customs in America being a myriad of confusion! There are so many walks of life here! Perhaps the problem is not finding the right person it is BEING the right person. Many people do tend to just fill space and choose to start a relationship carelessly. Some low-lifes take hostages and wont be honest that they are not ready to be involved with someone else. I think of dating like an ice cream shop. When we were kids our parents gave us ice cream and it was our favorite flavor because its all we knew. As we grew up and find more independence we try new flavors. Then we see that there is not just Rocky Road or Vanilla, there is also butterscotch, or mint chocolate chip. Someday walking on the road of happy destiny we get to that combination of personality, values, aesthetics, etcs. It can also mean compromise between two individuals with completely different tastes. That is a HUGE word for people. Most of all be YOURSELF Yumi-san! Happy New Year Nakata-sensei! In all honesty, I feel I can identify with you about the western dating customs being a myriad of confusion. We have so many different walks of life here in America. Every individual is different! I think there is a blurred line between the ultra-conservative principles in a courtship and the reckless independent liberal dating we see from our youths. Beyond that it is just two people who are or are not compatible in a relationship. There is a big difference between finding the right person and BEING the right person. As well as, choosing to be involved in a relationship for the right intentions and the wrong intentions. When we are kids are parents gave us ice cream. That was our favorite because it was all we ever knew. Then as we get older and go to new shops we try new flavors. Some people find they like Cookie-dough, Sherbet, or Rocky Road. Some people like to add sprinkles or jelly beans or chocolate chips… But suddenly, there is always that one type of Ice cream we unexpectedly and whimsically purchased from walking into the shop one day! I found there is nothing better than that irresistible flavor combination that is impossible to turn away from! The social conditioning and downright self-preservation are the reasons Western women are so reluctant to be assertive. It is obviously a cheap place, so you should have no problem paying for it. I learned the Japanese dating customs from watching anime so I copied them back in high school when it came to my crush, I pushed myself to confess to him even if my friends were already telling me I dont have to which ended badly since the guy wasnt interested in me. My country follows the American dating customs so my parents frowned upon my actions of confessing to my crush as well ask asking him out because they feel that it would make me a cheap girl if i do those and they believe its the guys job to confess to the girl and ask her out. It is really a catch 22 in the U.

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